5 WAYS TO BE A BETTER FRIEND




I am truly blessed when it comes to the friends department. I've always known this but over the past 9 months that I was engaged, I was amazed all over again by how lucky I am. My friends range from childhood best friends, family members, high school/college friends and co-workers. I'm even lucky enough to have made amazing friends through my husband and his friends girlfriends/wives.

As we get older and working towards our own goals in our careers and building families it's easy to fall out of touch with friends. This is why I put together 5 simple ways to be sure you never miss a beat with your bestie's!


1. COMMUNICATION

Maybe it's because I'm older or maybe it's because times are different, but I don't spend countless hours on the phone with my best friend. Nowadays I stay in touch with my friends in 3 ways: texting, Gmail/Gchat and social media. It's not necessarily important to talk everyday but it is important to be sure you're checking in and staying involved in each others lives. I have friends I chat with 5 days a week on Gchat and friends I go to dinner with once a month. Either way we make sure we stay current with each other's lives.


2. IT'S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU

Over the past 9 months my friends were there everyday listening to wedding stories, offering suggestions/advice, attending bridal showers and bachelorette parties and it's easy to get wrapped up in it being all about me...but it's not! I'm the one who is getting married and they still have lives too! I made sure I was making an effort to not make it about me and my wedding...what was going on with them? Was I there for them like they were there for me?


3. SHOW GRATITUDE

It's easy to remember how to be polite to coworkers or your family but make sure you're telling your friends how much you appreciate them. I was so grateful with how much time, effort, planning, money, and thought went into my bachelorette party. My friends surprised me all over again how thankful I am to have them in my life and it was important that I communicated that to them. Take your friend to dinner or send them a card in the mail! The small things matter.


4. BE PRESENT

This also goes in line with being a good listener. There is nothing more annoying than getting drinks with friends and they are on their phone the whole time. If you're making plans with your friends...be in the moment.


5. BE THERE WHEN THEY NEED YOU

As we get older, your friends maybe not need a "wing girl" or a "let's fly to Miami for the weekend" friend. They might need real life advice about jobs, kids, marriages, etc. Everyone has to grow up and all your friends might not be in the same "stage of life" as you but you still have to be there for them. We are all getting older and wiser, use it to your advantage!


To all my girlfriends who I talk to everyday or once every 6 months, I love you! Thanks for being the best friend I could ever ask for!!

8 comments:

  1. Such a great piece. I don't know where I'd be without my friends!

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  2. Thanks for this post! It's always good to be reminded how to make that little extra effort when it comes to your friends! I'm very like you to have amazing friends and I need to treasure that!

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  3. Great list, its always good to be the friend you would want to have yourself!

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  4. I love this!! After my best friend and I stopped talking about 3 years ago.. I've really learned the meaning of friendships.

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    1. Oh no!! Well I hope everything is ok now and things ended up working out for the best!!

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